Every year, it's the same thing, we take a quick look at the last twelve months and end up thinking that we will have to do better in the next twelve months. What if for once we don't make any other good resolution than to enjoy a little for ourselves instead of thinking about others?
We may judge it as laziness, or even a form of renunciation, but we prefer to call it positive selfishness. Termination has been in vogue in recent years, so why not use it wisely? Of course, we can't postpone everything. Of course, life doesn't wait, and neither does our employer! But what if we learned to differentiate between the time we give to what is necessary and what is necessary for us to be able to give the best of ourselves? Working to live or live to work, not putting off until tomorrow what we can do the same day... Our beautiful French language is teeming with beautiful and contradictory expressions. So let's invent a new one. One that will be observed and respected as a mantra, a reminder to order when our brains become more charged than a highway stop on a weekend of August 15: "A time for everything and time for me". Because no, if we don't take the bull by the horns, no one will do it for us!
There is no need to take a sabbatical year to meet up or to go to a seminar in a monastery to empty your mind, because let's face it, we wouldn't last more than a week before we realize that going around can quickly become boring. No, just think of some very small things that can help us decompress while waiting for a possible vacation, and especially those same little things that will help us forget, even if only for an hour a day, the chaos of our minds being mistreated by the perpetual pollution that surrounds us. Time for yourself is to run a bath and drag it until the water cools (yes, you can do it without jumping on your smartphone, which will be in plane mode while we bubble). Time for yourself is leaving alone to walk according to our desires, equipped with a big scarf or an umbrella, and breathe, look at what surrounds us without having to bring everything back to us and our small or big traumas. It's also about buying flowers, lighting a candle, watching that movie you love so much but never give yourself time to see again, sitting in the warmth of the sofa. It is to prepare a hot chocolate and start reading the last Goncourt or the new Chattam (or any work that allows us to focus on something other than the very real dramas of others). Listen to this album that reminds us of happy moments, take a nap wrapped in a blanket as soft as one of those pretty dreams finally interrupted by the alarm clock ringing the rest of the time. Browse a decoration magazine and redo your interior, and why not the world, because yes, dreaming is always free...
It is early January, the sunny days are still far away. Like last year, we can go headlong and go through things, or simply decide to take an hour a day. We let the calls end in absence, we pick up so much that we no longer recognize these insistent voices calling us, we close our eyes, we escape, we let off steam, we laugh, we dream, we forget. For an hour, yes, but just for yourself.... Happy New Year!
